I am hoping that sense and sanity will break out in the next elections (both your side of the pond and mine) before too much gerrymandering has been embedded. I see some European countries now classing several US states as dangerous places to travel for women, esp those of childbearing age.

I can't provide any recommendations as I've never lived in the US, only visited, but I applaud your decision to make the move to somewhere better for your family. Best of luck.